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Comparison is a blockage to doing your best work!

When you compare yourself to colleagues… what happens? Do you feel that you should do more, should work more hours, work harder and faster to keep up?  Chances are high you feel this way, probably most of the time. Especially in a competitive environment like academia which is built around fierce competition for scarce funding or […]


Practical ways to transition from 'work' to 'home' while working from home

A couple of weeks ago I wrote about what you could do to close the workday mentally.  In addition there are several other practical things you can do to make for a better transition from work to home while working from home. Transition ritual Before COVID you had a ritual that helped you to transition from […]

“I wish things were different… ” is a major energy drain!

I wish COVID wasn’t here and I could see my friends or family I wish I could just go to the office/the university I wish I didn’t feel so much stress I wish I wasn’t so tired I wish I had not done or said this thing Wishing things were different from how they are […]

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Do you find it hard to stop thinking about work?

Do you find it hard to transition from work mode to home/private mode? Do you find it hard to stop thinking about work in the evenings or on the weekend? Do you find it hard to stop working? This might be why: How do you look back at your day at the end of the […]

Asking for help is not weakness. It is human.

Asking for help is difficult. For many of us giving help is much easier. Probably because of different connotation we attach to needing help and giving help. Giving help seems to be the position of strong, heroic and successful people. Needing help is for the weak, the losers who cannot do it alone. This is […]


Will I still like this job 3 years from now?

Has a question like this crossed your mind lately? My coach clients often have questions like this. How does this question make you feel? Do you have an answer? Probably not. Wrong choice We often ask ourselves questions like this. E.g. when we are looking for a new job, or when we just started a […]

Rest is difficult

Rest is crucial. It is at the basis of feeling good emotionally and physically.  Allowing ourselves to rest can be really difficult in our western culture where so much emphasis is on productivity, more, faster, better. Where being busy or exhausted is a badge of honour. Where we try to balance so many roles in […]

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Cycles of success

The past weeks I felt on a high. I was very focused, I felt flow in my work, I got a lot done and took important steps in my own personal and professional development. I also gave an online talk and a webinar that both were very well received and made a difference to the people […]

How to feel fulfilled every day

Can you only feel a sense of fulfilment when you have finished your whole to do list? Or can you only feel a sense of fulfilment when the project is completely finished, or when things turned out to be a success? How can you bring a sense of fulfilment to every day? Regardless of whether […]

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After the holiday I will feel so much better

Did the summer holiday bring you a renewed sense of joy and renewed energy in your work? Yes? I am so glad it did! No? Then this blog is for you. When we feel very tired before the holidays, when we don’t really enjoy our work as much anymore, when we have doubts about our […]

Change your story, change your possibilities

Often we have clearly defined labels or stories about ourselves I am this… I am not this… Stories about who you are and who you are not. Stories about what you can and cannot do. What you should and shouldn’t do. These stories are of course heavily influenced by cultural norms in society, your family […]


What if you don't need more self-discipline or willpower to succeed?

What if  you needed more compassion and more indepth, detailed insights about yourself? Often we are very critical, harsh and disappointed with ourselves if we fail to do what we intented to do, if we fail to change a habit or form a new habit. Often our inner critic chimes in very loudly, berating us for lack […]

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