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How I renew my focus and nurture myself during the summer

Here in the Netherlands the school holidays have started in part of the country.  The start of a relatively quiet time in a lot of organisations. Lot’s of colleagues are on holiday, less meetings, some projects seem to be on hold for a while, customers are on holiday, no lessons or courses at institutions. What […]


Feeling down or worried? This helps!

Last week a new book came in. This is not very special because I just love reading books. Fiction and nonfiction. I just love to learn and be inspired! I am always reading multiple books at the same time. This new book was on the neuroscience of anxiety and depression. The day it arrived, I dove […]

Ambition is about meaning. Not about money, status or climbing the career ladder.

Yesterday I hosted a free online workshop on how to combine your ambitions with finding a healthy work- life balance. And what became very clear from the conversation we had about ambition was that for the participants being ambitious is not about money or status or about just wanting to climb the career ladder. No […]

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Small steps, big impact

Last week I went to the store to get some file folders. When it was my turn at the counter, I grabbed my wallet…only to discover I had left it at home. So I told the cashier, “Please leave it.  I’ll have to come back for it later because I forgot my wallet. “ Then […]

A coach on work-life balance doesn’t feel balanced all the time

A couple of weeks ago I was meeting with a potential client about giving workshops on work-life balance in their organisation. At one point during the meeting the training advisor of this organisation asked me: Do you feel balanced all the time? My honest answer was: no. It is not like once you know how […]


Mildness & kindness help you when you long for change!

Knowing what you need to do to find balance does not mean  you will feel balanced all the time. The circumstances of your life might change. Or maybe when you have felt balanced for quite some time, you give your balance less attention. Or the push and pull of all the demands in your life […]

What you do when you are tired or stressed is often the opposite of what you need

Do you know what you do when you are tired or stressed? What is your automatic behaviour? Do you know what the tell-tale signs are in your behaviour? What behaviours serve as a red flag? Often these behaviours are automatic and we are not consciously aware of them.  When you are tired or stressed do […]


Maybe I should just get a simpler job to find balance

Sarah is a very talented and driven academic and is also recognized as such by her peers and her supervisors. She publishes well, is innovative, shows management skills and also grabs her chances to be a visiting scholar abroad. And she comes to me for coaching because she struggles with her work-life balance. When talking […]

Are you working on willpower instead of joy?

I have very strong willpower. Something needs to be done…even though you’re tired or don’t like doing it? I used to tell myself “come on, no whining, just do it. Not everything is fun and you can rest after you are finished.” This is how I used my willpower for a big part of my […]


Voordat je doelen stelt….doe dit eerst!

Zo richting het eind van het jaar zijn veel mensen bezig met hun doelen voor het komende jaar. Misschien moet je op je werk je POP (persoonlijk ontwikkel plan) voor 2019 schrijven of misschien wil je zelf bepaalde doelen voor het komende jaar stellen. Misschien ben jij iemand die jaarlijks goede voornemens maakt. Doelen stellen […]

Do you dream with the brakes on?

Last month I gave two workshops at a PhD/postdoc career event at Leiden University. Most of the participants said they had no idea what they wanted to do next. But when I probed a bit further, I learned that a lot of the participants secretly had an idea or dream about a field of work, […]

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When to slow down and when to get going…

Do you know when it is time to slow down and take good care of yourself because you are really tired? Do you know when it is time to get going, even when you feel tired? Do you know the difference? In this blog I share how I know and what you can do to […]

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